So one of my siblings just let me know the drama from the Christmas dinner that I didn’t attend. Even though no alcohol was served, evidently some of the family got a little wrung up and arguments ensued. Thankfully it was after the meal and people were about to leave anyway. I can’t believe that this person though anything could be gained from stirring up things with the family.
Had to send a message to the perp. Not to keep things stirred up but to hopefully chill things for the next gathering – whenever that will be. At the risk of her giving me a bunch of grief back. Oh well, let’s see if free advice is worth anything.
“The older I get – and its pretty old now, g/f – the more I appreciate peace and harmony. Even though people have strong emotions, it is usually not worth having a discussion escalate in a family gathering. The family (any family) has a natural pecking order and people who disregard that are at a disadvantage.
So let me say that, when I married Steve Sr and had to find my way in his large dysfunctional family it was always challenging for me, especially during holidays. When all else fails, I would tell myself, “You can’t reason with crazy and you can’t argue with stupid.” Not that I’m calling anyone crazy or stupid – just sayin’ that sometimes nothing you say will have a good outcome no matter how right you think you are or how wrong you think someone else might be.
There’s another saying I love, too. “Don’t let the turkeys get you down.”